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My co-worker’s response to Big Love

I commented before that I had some co-workers who watch Big Love and I was curious to see if they would ask me about it. Well, I just had a nice conversation with one woman. We’ve talked about religion before. There have been a few members who have worked with her in the past, and she knows that I’m currently the bishop of my ward. She asked if I’d seen Big Love and I said that I had, and so she asked if the temple scene was true. I explained that it was basically true, but that it missed the point of the ceremony, which is to learn about the Plan of Salvation from the beginning to the end. She asked if the “muscle thing” was true, and when I gave her a confused look, she clarified that she was talking about what was said at the veil. I said that most of what was in the episode was accurate. She asked about what the blue apron. I told her it was actually green, and that it represented the “fig leaves” they used to cover themselves. She accepted that without hesitation. She also wanted to confirm that is what we do in the temple in Toronto (I’ve referred to that before), and I told her it was.

Without me trying to justify anything, she said that at first it seemed weird, but then she figured that all other churches have rituals, and it was no different than that, so she thought it was fine. She said she wanted to see the white room at the end. We laughed and I explained a few things she might have to change in her life in order to do that, and she said she was fine with most things other than the gambling (we work in Niagara Falls, and she likes to frequent the casinos). She said she’d let me know when she was ready.

We spoke about the “love court”, and I told her I’d never heard that phrase before. I explained that I’ve had to run a couple of those sorts of things, and that I didn’t think it was portrayed well. That made her think of when the woman was questioned about her garments, and wanted to know what that was. I wear crew neck garment tops, so I pointed to the white “undershirt” I have on, and told her it wasn’t magic underwear, but that I wear them every day. That was good enough for her. She didn’t ask any more about why, or what they represented. She did say she was going to check every day to make sure I had them on!

We talked for a little longer, and I explained a bit about Joseph Smith, and mentioned how he must have been influenced by what he learned as a Mason. I explained that the method was similar, but that what is taught is different. She thought that was very interesting, as her grandfather was a mason and it always fascinated her.

So, based on this one conversation, the episode did not hurt her impression of the Church, and it helped her learn some more about the Church.

My (simple) thoughts on the Big Love episode

I have to be honest, when I first heard that Big Love was going to show parts of the temple endowment ceremony, I didn’t get very upset. It was going to happen sooner or later in some main stream movie or TV show. As others have commented, the information is all out there anyway. Out of all of the people close to me who found out about it, my mother-in-law was particularly upset about it. I received a couple of email forwards from various church leaders who wanted to ensure that the show wasn’t mentioned in sacrament meeting, and suggesting that if people have questions, they could watch the MormonMessages clip on YouTube.

Anyway, I did see the relevant parts today, and it just seemed so bizarre to hear those words spoken so freely when we as members never speak them other than in the temple. Generally, what they showed seemed pretty accurate. However, of course the problem is that only showing a few minutes doesn’t really help anyone understand the purpose of the temple. I know that the physical actions have a place in the ceremony, but I’ve always been fond of the presentation as a whole as you progress from the creation to the eternities.

There are a few people at work who watch the show. I have to say, that in trying to watch the show for entertainment, it was just too much of a soap opera for me. It definitely isn’t my type of show. It will be interesting to see if my co-workers approach me with any questions.

On a related (but side) note, the MormonMessages clip is from the longer movie Between Heaven and Earth. I saw it a few years ago, and at the time I thought it was excellent and very well done. If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it.